Are You Consuming Knowledge or Are You ACTUALLY Learning?
I’m lucky enough to work with some of the smartest, most dedicated leaders in the world. My role is to challenge and support them with the conversations that matter most. Lately, we’ve been trying to get to the bottom of this question: Are we actually learning anything with all this information we have at our fingertips?
We’re living in a paradox:
- It’s easier than ever to get information—books, podcasts (I’m almost embarrassed at how many I listen to), AI, and endless content at our fingertips.
- But contextualizing and integrating that information? That doesn’t necessarily follow.
“I downloaded the book to Kindle… why aren’t I a different person?” – My internal dialogue most days.
I work with leaders on this every day, and I still catch myself falling into the same trap—mistaking insight for change, knowledge for growth. It’s humbling. And it’s a reminder that real learning takes more than just understanding—it takes action.
We’ve all been there—watching a leadership TED Talk, reading a book on emotional intelligence, or sitting in on a webinar—only to realize weeks later that nothing has really changed.
But sometimes, a single idea does change us.
Sometimes, we read a sentence that sticks.
Sometimes, we hear something we can’t unhear.
The real question isn’t just “Am I learning?”—it’s “Am I engaging deeply enough for this to matter?”
Because real learning—especially in the relationship intelligence space—demands something more:
- It’s hard to build relational intelligence without trying something new—which means risking failure.
- It’s hard to hear what we need to hear without asking for feedback—and staying open when someone is willing to share.
- It’s hard to change our behavior without letting others know we’re trying—because growth thrives in accountability.
- And sometimes, it’s hard simply because change asks us to see ourselves differently.
It’s the difference between knowing the concept of trust and following through on a difficult commitment, even when no one is watching.
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Between hearing about emotional intelligence and pausing in the heat of a tense conversation to ask, ‘What else might be true here?’ instead of reacting.
AI can help us think (I use it all the time), but it can’t step into the hard moments for us.
It can’t build trust.
It can’t repair a fractured relationship.
It can’t do the vulnerable work of change.
That part? That’s all on us.
What’s something you’ve actually learned recently—not just consumed?
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